“Goals are like magnets. They’ll attract the things that make them come true.” Tony Robbins
Setting goals is one of the common missing links I see with clients and it has detrimental effects. It is difficult to navigate your direction if you have no final destination and most people I encounter accept what they can get because they don’t know what they want. Settling for scraps is ultimately what ends up happening as people start give up their tireless wandering. So today I want to go over what it means to not only set goals but also to share some tips which may help you define what you are trying to achieve.
I always ask my clients to write down one long term goals and at least 3 short/midterm goals after their first Eval with me. I try not to give to many guidelines because it always me to get a small insight into how the individual thinks. Typically the long term goal is big like running a marathon or losing 40 pounds and the smaller goals can be milestones towards the larger goals or standalone accomplishments. This brings me to the first and most important tip:
Make Your Goals Measurable!
One of the biggest mistakes I see when people set these initial goals though is that they come back with goals that are unmeasurable. “I want to be fit” is one I hear a lot from clients but everyone’s definition of “fit” can be different so the goal has to be defined by the person and no one else. In making a goal measureable you will able to break down the steps that need to happen to get there. So if you want to lose 60 pounds you can set marks for where you should be in a set time frame in order to reach that goal. In this instance I would have the person shoot for 10-15 pounds in the first month and then scale down a little as they progress forward because the body begins to resist the weight loss as it gets thinner. As you move forward with the pursuit of your goals it is very important to use the next tip:
Focus on What You Want Not What You Don’t Want
Tony Robbins says “Where focus goes energy flows!” and it’s amazing how often people focus on what they don’t want to happen instead of what they want. I personally use the analogy of driving a car and focusing on not hitting the tree passing by. Most likely you will swerve your car and hit a tree from focusing on them so much. So when people try to lose weight I often hear them voice concern about gaining weight instead of focusing all of their attention on the goal they have the work that needs to be done. I tell people to “stop focusing on what can go wrong and start focusing on what can go right” which is another great piece of advice from Tony Robbins.
You have to want it on the highest level
No one can make you want what you don’t want when it comes to your goals and once you define and know what you want then get excited about the process of achieving those goals. If you haven’t heard Eric Thomas tell the Guru story then please take a moment and watch it right here (link) and then come right back and realize you have to want to achieve your goals as bad as you want to breathe. Once you work that hard towards your goals there is no stopping you. Learn from your mistakes and the pitfalls along the way but always push forward.
Make Yourself Accountable
If you make a goal and are not held accountable to that goal it can be easy to disregard it when things get difficult. Family members or friends can help keep you accountable if they are on board and support your goal but sometimes that might not work because it is easier to dismiss their attempts to keep you on track. A personal trainer helps with accountability as it is someone you are paying but sometimes a client will even dismiss the trainer’s attempts to keep them accountable. I personally like notes written on mirrors and white boards in plain sight to keep my goals at the forefront of my mind. Sometimes I create a competition with one or two people or even myself because I know I am a competitive person so I use that to my advantage. You can use a competition with yourself or find an accountability buddy to help each other stay encouraged to go do your cardio or workout with if competing with other people isn’t your thing. Whatever you chose make sure you don’t dismiss, disregard, or disrespect what you have chosen to keep you accountable because that will never help you get closer to your goal.
So now that we have covered these handful of tips I want you to take a moment and analyze what you really want to achieve and stay focused on that. No more focusing on the things that might go wrong, only all of the amazing things that will go right!